Tired of those women's magazine telling us How to Get Rid of Belly Fat?

Last night I had dinner with women friends "of a certain age" and we lamented bodies that are  more saggy than they once were.

So when I reached home I pulled out the following quote from my book, GRACE ON THE GO: Quick Prayers for Determined Dieters.  

A Prayerful Rumination While Sitting in the Hot Tub at the Ladies Spa

Oh Lord, I almost didn’t step in 

When 

I saw her sitting there.        

Look.

Her belly is smooth satin,

Uncreased. Taut.

Unlike mine. 

Since my babies,

Mine has a more interesting texture.

Waffle weave, 

Herringbone,

Cablestitch.

It’s as comfortable as an old sweater

Whose pockets sag with treasures.

I need your help, oh Lord, 

to celebrate 

The richness of my belly

Whose fabric is so well worn.

Can you forgive a betrayer?

Have you ever experienced a betrayal by someone you loved and trusted?  
I have. 

It felt like an earthquake: the very ground beneath me shook. The betrayer was my husband and as I realized that for the previous six months we had lived an intimacy that was actually a lie, I  wept in anguished rage.

And yet...and yet...

Did I want to endlessly reside in a bitter web of anger? 

At the National Institute of Healthcare Research, Michael McCullough, PhD, developed a four-step program to help people move beyond betrayal.

Step 1: Think about times YOU have hurt others. Were you deliberately trying to hurt?

Step 2: Recall when you have been forgiven. How did you feel when you needed someone’s forgiveness?

Step 3: Visualize your aggressor’s state of mind. Explain the hurtful event from his/her perspective.

Step 4. Try and go beyond the event itself to feel the imperfect humanness of your betrayer.

As part of step 4, I began to pray each day the familiar 23rd Psalm: 
“The Lord is my shepherd.” 

Only I substituted plural pronouns, so it became 

“The Lord is OUR Shepherd, WE shall not want...” 

Praying the entire psalm this way over a period of time

helped me restore a sense of shared humanity with my betrayer.  

It helped bring into my heart an awareness that

WE-- both of us--dwell in the house of the Lord. And WE, both of us, 
are children of God. 
Forgiving a betrayer does not happen easily. It takes time. And a willing heart.
Not for the betrayer's sake but for our own.